Do the right thing...

I attended a funeral this weekend and the closing song was "Well Done." In case you don't know the hymn, basically, it says - when its all said and done and this weary life comes to an end, all we want is for the man above to say "job well done!" So, its made me think a lot about where I am in my life, in my relationships, in my service and if I'm living to make sure that when my time comes, I can be certain that he is going to look my life over and say "well done."

So how do you get the ultimate seal of approval? I don't know...I am mere human and imperfect just like you and have made so many mistakes along the way by acting abruptly or making decisions based on my emotions and I am sure there will be many more to come. But, what I do know is if we just start by "doing the right thing", we are much more likely to be in a better position to hear those words of praise.

So, while we continue to strive for perfect and to live by his word - focus on always "doing the right thing." You be the bigger person, be the first to extend a helping hand, be the first to apologize for your errors, end the stand-off, stop the gossip, mend a broken friendship. Do whatever would be "the right thing to do." Its so easy to take the path of least resistance or just sit one out and choose to do nothing and not everyone is going to applaud you for doing what is right, but in the end they will respect you. If we live each day striving to do the right thing, I truly believe we will be blessed to be in his good graces. And when its said and done, his stamp of approval is the only one that we need.

Keep in mind that tomorrow is not promised to any of us. So don't wait, start today and "do the right thing" in times of need, in times of controversy, in times of fear and in times of good and when you reach those pearly gates you will be well rewarded with those three simple words "job well done" and oh how sweet it will be...

Its a Season of Change and Transition

With the weather changing and the flowers beginning to come up out of the ground and bloom its hard not to think about change...doing something new. I don't know what it is, but this seems to truly be a season of change and transition. Several people I know are changing jobs, moving, getting married, having babies...making big changes in their lives. Change is good ~

But, change is not easy. For some its scary, hard to take a step outside of what they are use to - a step outside their comfort zone. Don't let it frighten you. Don't ever sit back and not make a move because of fear or comfort, you will only regret it some years later.

So, embrace change, do what makes you happy. If it doesn't work out, you can always just "change again." Take a step out on faith -- inventory your life and make the changes you need to and those that you want to. Believe me, it will feel refreshing and new!

Pace Yourself~~~~~

We spend our day putting out fires. Gotta do this, gotta get that done...trying to multi-task and shove in as much as we can into one day. Whose to say this is the way it has to be all of the time? I know there will be days when we have to take life by the horns and do it this way, but have you ever thought about just pacing yourself. Don't worry it will get done, may just not be when they want it to get done or when you think it needs to get done, but we're all going to get to the finish line.

Basically, life is one long marathon and its easy for us who are used to doing so much and having so much to do to start out the gate with full steam. But what we don't think about and realize is that coming out the gate in this fashion is likely to burn us out very early in the race. So, we need to make our approach to life just like we would a marathon - run for distance, not for speed.

In other words, just relax some and pace yourself... I know there will be times when we have to kick it into high gear and when those times come shift the gear stick and go for it, but for all of those other times when its really not a race~~~~~just pace yourself. In the end it will all get done and be just fine.

Are We Really That Over the Top?

So, we will all pack in to see "Why Did I Get Married Too" this weekend and hopefully you will laugh and get tearful at the highly emotional scenes just as I did. However, when it was all said and done, I had just one question - are we really that over the top? Are black women really that emotional? YES - YES and YES. But why??????

Yeah I know its just a movie and yes, I know Angela is a very dramatic version, but when you get right down to it, we are very emotional, expressive beings. Its like that song "Real Woman" we can go on and on until we prove our point and we are so quick to pull the coat of anyone who dares to try and wrong us or "disrespect us." What is it? Are we taught this? Is it innate? I don't know, but I do know I'm guilty of it too.

Whoever it was that first said..."black women don't take no ----" wasn't kidding. We are REAL. We are straight up. But its all good, its what makes us who and what we are...."REAL WOMEN"

Go in peace my black women~~